Sounds, so harsh, doesn't it, lol! i was reading my November 15 My Utmost For His Highest (by Oswald Chambers) devotional last week and it was all about minding your own business.
One of our severist lessons comes from the stubborn refusal to see that we must not interfere with other people's lives. It takes a long time to realize the danger of being an amateur providence, that is, interfering with God's order for others. You see a certain person suffering , and you say—He shall not suffer, and I will see that he does not. You put your hand straight in front of God's permissive will to prevent it, and God says,—"What is that to thee?"
... proposing things you had no right to advise. When you do have to give advice to another, God will advise you through with the direct understanding of His Spirit; your part is to be so rightly related to God that His discernment comes through you all the time for the blessing of another soul. —Oswald Chambers, My Utmost For His Highest
Hmmm. It's so easy to give advice instantly without praying about it, isn't it? Or maybe our own opinion is so strong that we think we know what God would want so we don't even consider thinking before speaking. Or, maybe we should just be praying for that person to make the right decision instead of offering any advice at all, because our first concern should be whether or not we'd be getting in the way of God's will.
We can have the purest intentions of wanting to help a friend or a family member, but because we cannot possibly know God's will, our best bet is to be deeply in prayer before giving advice and "so rightly related to God" so that God can use us according to His plan. This way, we know for sure that we aren't aiding the enemy in his plan to throw off God's will.
Oh, Lord, it is so hard to keep quiet sometimes! If we're honest, we're probably a lot better at talking and giving advice than listening, praying, and waiting for you to answer. Most of the time, we have really good intentions, Lord. We hate to see those we love suffer and want to badly to ease what they are going through. But, we also do not want to get in Your way, Lord, because YOU know what's best. Help me to mind my own business, and know when You have appointmented me to share advice. In Jesus name!