As women, especially wives and mothers, the task of managing our family's calendar is up to us. Whether we actively take the responsibility or whether it falls on us, we usually coordinate the family events. We make sure the kids know about the dentist appointments. We schedule the repair man's visit and oversee his work. We remind our husbands to RSVP for the company picnic. And we take our kids shopping for their friend's birthday presents. We drive kids to practice and volunteer at school...oh and work full time too!. Most days, we go about this job so fluidly we are unaware that we are even doing it. Since we coordinate all that stuff, it is easy to think we are "responsible" for all that stuff!
But we are not!
God is teaching me a very important lesson on this right now. My family is in the middle of a BIG life event. We are moving to a different state in less than month! Imagine how you'd feel if you found out you were moving in 30 days! I feel like it is my responsibility to coordinate our lives so this move is as stressless as possible. Stressless to everyone ... except me, of course. I am constantly thinking of ways that I can make this transition easier on my kids and husband. Usually that line of thinking means I am taking more "responsibility" (which easily translates to "burden") on my shoulders so my family has it easier.
Ladies, no one asks us to take on these extra burdens, right? We just do it because it needs to get done. But what happens when we voluntarily burden ourselves? If you are like me, once you start feeling the weight of these extra burdens, you look around dismayed because no one is volunteering to help you with your burden. Your spouse, kids, even friends are oblivious to the pressure you are under....and that makes you MAD! Surely, someone would be considerate enough to come to your aid.
Good news! Someone is considerate enough to come to your aid!
Jesus said in Mathew 11: 28-30 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”.
I am learning a very important lesson during this time. It is called OFF-LOADING!
First, I am off-loading my burdens to Christ. In that process, I am trusting God to mange the family's calendar and coordinate our family's life events. They are not my responsibility.
Second, I am off-loading some tasks to my family and friends. By asking my family and friends to help me, I am allowing them to partake in this wonderful adventure in life. I am also practicing humility. They have skills, gifts, and talents that I don't have. Why deprive them of the chance to use those skills, gift, and talents? And because they are gifted, it will take them less time to do the task then it would take me.
When I do as Matthew 11:28-30 instructs, my heart is gentle and humble like Christ's. I am not snapping at my kids for leaving their toys out because we have a showing. I am not rolling my eyes at my husband for not putting the dishes away. I am not mad at my friends for "deserting" me in my time of need. No...instead I am finding rest for my soul!
Lord, there are many of us right now who are going thru a major transition in their lives, which require making quick, sudden, or even drastic decisions. Help us to remember that our steps are ordered by You, and that you are leading us and guiding us into ALL truths...including any decisions that need to be made, regarding family. Lord, help us also to remember that we are not alone...you have given us our family and friends to be a support and a help to us. Allow us to be have enough courage to share our burden, just as Christ has told us to. In the end, you have made a way for us, and know exactly where we are going, and what we need to do to get there. We thank you for this, and ALL things, in Jesus name! AMEN.
(by the way, my husband wrote the closing prayer because i couldn't find the words...see I'm learning!)