Want to know the best secret I've learned about healing?
Stop telling your story.
Wounds of the past cannot heal if you keep opening them. The more you tell your story, the deeper the wound gets and the longer it takes to heal.
And every time you come across an old photo, a gift given to you, an article of clothing, jewelery, letters and cards, etc, that instantly takes you back in time, you start to ponder your past, which causes the mind to wonder what if.
The what-if path is a very dangerous one, leading to nowhere good. Walking down the memory lane that is filled with loss, insecurities, mistakes, broken relationships, painful conversations, and regrets, steal time from the present and your future.
The mroe time you spend wandering down memory lane every time you look at something in your space, the less time you have to spend on pursuing all the good things God has planned for you. And it robs you of the time you should be spending nurturing the relationships you are in.
Most people cannot part with tangible reminders because they want to hold on to the good memories or a specific person, feeling like if they purge the object, they will lose the memory or the person they've been holding on to for whatever reason. Holding on to your past by storing physical objects in your home is very unhealthy.
If you really want to heal and close up old wounds, it's time to purge the things that remind you of your past, especially old relationships. This will help you to stop telling yourself the story of your past. You're less likely to tell your story if you're not reminded of it often.
The day i threw away all the pictures from my first marriage was a hard day, but a very liberating day. i knew i'd remember the things that God wanted me to remember, but i also knew i couldn't be reminded of the hardships every time i came across the photos. i closed that wound. i stopped telling that story and i am healing.
This week, really pray about what God wants you to purge so that you can be free of your past and heal those open wounds. What are you holding on to? Is it one of the objects I mentioned above? Getting rid of objects from your past is another step forward in the healing process.
God, i pray i have the courage the finally put my past behind me by getting rid of the things that remind of where i was, not where i am going. i know that when i choose to let go of my past i can fully focus on my future and give all of myself to the people in my life now. i know i'll always have memories, but i don't need the constant reminders of things from my past that take up mental space and cause me to dwell on painful things (or happy things that i shouldn't be thinking about it). Today, i choose to move forward and not look back. Amen!