"Sometimes a weird look from a friend is a gift straight from heaven"
~Susie Larson, Your Beautiful Purpose p68
A good friend of mine didn't give me the weird look, but the "Duh" response. We were on the phone and I was telling her about a revelation I had about myself. Do you want to know the sage wisdom that came flowing from her lips? She said, "it's about time".
I wasn't expecting that response. I was expecting her gentler form of encouragement. I was not expecting her to tell me how silly I was being. I wasn't expecting her to tell me that I was believing the lies of Satan. It was a chilly surprise at first. Then the cold melted into warm endearment for my friend.
5 Better is open rebuke
than hidden love.
6 Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.
Her response was indeed a gift from heaven. The bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:1
1There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build
My friend clearly perceived it was a time to "kill" my self pity and "tear down" the wrong mindset that lead me to that place of pity. Her "wound" was trusted because it was ordained for me to receive it at that time. Though I didn't get the memo that this wound was coming, I am glad it came.
I am biased to myself and can't always see my my flaws. I have come to rely on the Holy Spirit, my husband, and close friends to show me ways in which I am simply being silly. Yes it hurts! A lot at times. But I know their wounds can be trusted. I also know God's grace is there to help me grow through the hurt.
I value the friendships that both "kill" and "heal" me. Encased in those friendships is the fun that lets us laugh uncontrobally over the silliest thing. Encased in those friendships is the love that keeps me accountable to God when, especially when, I don't want to be accountable. If you have friends that both "kill" and "heal".... thank them! They may not know that their weird look is really a Godsend.
DISCLAIMER: Please know there is much discernment needed to know if the person delivering the "wound" is a friend. And even if he or she is a true friend, it may not be the time for the wound to delivered or time for you to receive it. Rely on the Holy Spirit.
God, thank you that we get to live this life with other people. Eventhough it seems life would be easier without other people, you use others to sharpen us just like Proverb 27:17as iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. We all know when metals clash, sparks fly. That is part of the process. Help us to speak the truth in love and not opinion out of frustration. Give us wisdom to know and perceive out seasons. Thank you for our friends.