The older i get, i'm noticing more smile lines (aka wrinkles), sun spots, grey hairs .... and it is SO HARD to not get caught up in the plastic surgery/tanning bed/over-makeup-ed look. Embracing age, and the beauty of age, is difficult when every magazine cover, billboard, over-makeup-ed celebrity, and the young flaunt flawlessness.
We are living in a culture that has trained us to freak out when we start to lose the beauty of our youth, because we haven't learned to find beauty in growing older and cherishing inner beauty. And, as a Christian who knows what the Lord says about charm and beauty, i still find it difficult to stand in front of the mirror— sometimes wishing i was flawless.
You see, the enemy loves to draw attention to our imperfections, making us insecure in our skin. The minute we take our focus off being grateful for the way that God knit us in our mother's womb, is the moment we start complaining about all the things we'd like to change about our appearance and we let our insecurities control how much we spend on beauty products, plastic surgery, etc. All this time and energy we spend worrying about how we look on the outside outweighs the time we spend working on our inner beauty, character, kindness, compassion, gratitude ... we lose sight of what it really means to be beautiful.
i'm trying to embrace getting older with grace. Every morning, when i wake up and look in the mirror, i want to focus on what the Lord describes as beautiful, i want to be content with the way He made me, and i want to see me the way HE sees me ... the way i have a reverence for Him ... the way my heart is so in love with His ... the way my soul finds rest in Him ... the way my whole self radiates with joy because of Him. Those are things that make me beautiful! And they are the same things that make YOU beautiful, too (even though the world may not agree).
i think it's time that we redefine what it means to be beautiful and we live out Proverbs 31:30. It's not wrong, by any means, to do things that make us feel beautiful, wear makeup, or color our hair ... we just have to be careful that we don't spend more time (and money) on our appearance than we do on what makes us beautiful from the inside out. As Christian women, we have a lot of work to do to undo what this flawless obsessed culture is doing to our young girls and the choices they are making to make themselves prettier/sexier/appealing and to sell themselves to boys/men who only care about charm and outer beauty and not a lasting relatonship with a girl/woman who fears the Lord.
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.—Proverbs 31:30
Oh, Lord! Sometimes i really hate the mirror, the scale, the little imperfections that i can't stop focusing on! i really wish i could focus on the truth of real beauty, rather than what the world defines. i want to be able to drown out the lies of the devil — when he tells me that my imperfections define who i am and that i'm not good enough unless i'm flawless. The only way i know how to do drown out that voice is by proclaiming your truth! Believing in my heart that you carefully knitted me together in my mother's womb ... and that what i see as flawed, you see as the intricate work of your mighty hands. i pray, God, that you will reveal to me what it really means to fear you. i want to be in a place where i'm less and less concerned about my physical appearance and most concerned about the beauty of my heart. In Jesus name!